*Disclaimer: This post is not meant to offend anyone or their beliefs or opinions. Just giving you my point of view on a sensitive subject...here's the short of the long:
Most of our family knows by now that my husband and I have chosen NOT to have children. GASP! That's right. In most people's minds, couples get married and then have kids. But in our case, we have both always known that this is not the direction we wanted to go.
Matt and I had the "baby talk" early on in our relationship. And we found that neither of us had a deep longing to be a parent. I don't think I have an ounce of motherly instinct in my body. I have felt this way since I was a preteen. My sister and I played with dolls and we pretended to be moms, but once I understood what was REALLY involved, I said, "No, thank you." People would tell me that I was "young" and I would change my mind, but I never did.
LOL do people ask you all the time about it!?
ReplyDeleteIts not selfish! Its RESPONSIBLE. If you know you aren't meant to be a parent the selfish act would be to become one anyway and face the possibility of not parenting that child the way he or she deserves!
ReplyDeleteGood for you both for knowing what you want and sticking to it! I love being a mother, love my son more than anything, but can definitely appreciate your decision too.
don't let her fool you, people...she is a great aunt--as long as diapers and boogers aren't involved ;o)
ReplyDeleteIt's your choice and people should respect that.
ReplyDeleteBetter to know and decide that you don't want kids for 100% sure than second-guess yourself because of other peoples' opinions and end up doing something you regret. That wouldn't be fair to you, or any child you bring to this world.
ReplyDeleteSome people just aren't meant to be parents. Which is fine. Nothing wrong with that at all. I just wish more people would REALIZE that they don't want kids before they have them.
I know of people that have done just that. Get married and not have children. It's your choice and "others" just need to get over it. You live your life the way you want, not for others.
ReplyDeleteCheers,
Fen
So well said.
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